The Theory of Pain Relativity

Fairly often while talking to a friend, family member, or coworker we will find ourselves talking about our health, how we’ve been feeling lately, etc. Almost invariably, if the person I’m talking to knows about my situation, they will follow-up any complaints they may have had with “Of course, I know YOU have it worse” or “I shouldn’t complain, compared to what YOU’VE gone through” or similar…I have just one thing to say to this, and to all of the people out there who think, or feel these things…


I’ve said this before, and I’m sure I’ll say it again. Pain is relative to the person experiencing it. Period. End of story.

Your pain requires no validation. Your pain requires no proof. Your pain requires no apologies.

In the same way that someone else’s good day can not diminish your own good day, no one, including yourself, should ever make you feel inferior based on how you are feeling. We all get sick. We all have bad days. Comparing your bad day, to someone else’s bad day doesn’t mean anything, in the long run.

Endure the bad days.

Enjoy the good days.

After all, one could not exist, without the other.

As always, you are your own best advocate. If you do not take care of yourself, who will?

Until next time,



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