Today is the 2nd day of 2015, and I cannot begin to tell you the number of times I saw “New Year, New ME!!” or similar statements on social media the last few days. That’s not to say that I have anything against making New Year’s Resolutions, but I have to say that it makes more sense to me to make them uplifting, life improving resolutions. I would think that you would want to set realistic goals goals for yourself, rather than setting an extremely high bar for yourself, then beating yourself up if you do not reach it. I see a lot of people posting their resolutions, and a lot of times they seem bleak, or self-deprecating. Don’t “resolve to get your fat ass in shape”, resolve to become a healthier person, resolve to make healthier choices. Don’t tell yourself the things that you cannot do, but reaffirm every day the wonderful things you CAN do for yourself.
With that in mind, below are my New Year’s Resolution suggestions
1) Resolve to be a more positive person. Each day, attempt to see the bright side of whatever situation you may be in. It is there. It may not always be easy to see, but if you step back, take a deep breath, and look around, you will always be able to find a happy moment.
2) Resolve to be a kinder person to those around you. Maybe each day, go out of your way to reach out to someone you wouldn’t normally talk to. At work, at school, in line at the coffee shop; wish them a good morning, or ask them how their day is. I don’t know about you, but when people do this for me, it always leaves a smile on my face.
3) Resolve to be a healthier you. This could be physically healthier, mentally healthier, spiritually healthier, whatever you feel that you need in your life right now. Take a small step each day in the direction of bettering yourself. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Take a time out from your hectic day to just relax, and breathe. Pray, meditate, read spiritual writings. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel healthier.
4) Resolve to more fully love the life that you’re living. Each morning when you wake up, be thankful for that morning. Each day is a gift and shouldn’t be wasted. Be fully present in your days, celebrate the small victories, sing along with the radio, call and talk to a friend you haven’t heard from in a long time.
And lastly a few resolutions solely dedicated to managing your health care (Come on, you knew it had to be coming…)
5) Resolve to be fully present in your health care. Pay attention during appointments. Take notes. This way you’ll always have that information to look back on after your appointment.
6) Resolve to be a proactive patient. Have a question for the doctor? Write it down. Bring it with you, and make sure your doctor fully answers your questions. If they do not, repeat the question and ask for another explanation.
7) Resolve to be an informed patient. Do research on issues that are concerning you. Now, this doesn’t mean consult random websites on the internet, but there are an awful lot of resources out there for you.
8) Resolve to advocate fully for yourself (be your OWN advocate!!).
9) Resolve to take the best care of yourself you possibly can.
10) Resolve to reach out to a caretaker when you need to.
11) Resolve to NOT feel weak when you DO have to reach out for help.
12) Resolve to acknowledge the strength of character it takes to admit you need help.
As always, you are your own best advocate. If you do not take care of yourself, who will?
Until next time,